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Relationship of Husband and Wife in ISLAM
In Islam, the relationship between husband and wife is considered to be one of the most important and sacred relationships. It is a relationship that is based on mutual love, respect, and understanding.
The Quran states that Allah has created spouses for each other so that they may find peace and tranquility in each other (Quran 30:21). The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) also emphasized the importance of treating one’s spouse with kindness and love.
In Islamic teachings, the husband is considered to be the protector and provider for his wife, while the wife is considered to be the caretaker and nurturer of the household. Both spouses are expected to fulfill their respective roles with kindness and compassion towards each other.
The Quran also stresses the importance of communication and consultation between spouses. They are encouraged to discuss their problems and find solutions together, and not to make important decisions without each other’s consent.
Islam also emphasizes the importance of physical intimacy between spouses within the boundaries of marriage. The Quran states that spouses are garments for each other, and they are to protect and cover each other’s faults (Quran 2:187).
Overall, love between husband and wife in Islam is based on mutual respect, trust, and understanding. It is a relationship that is meant to bring happiness, peace, and tranquility to both spouses.
Kindness In Islam (Sila Rehmi)
Islam is a religion that emphasizes the importance of kindness, compassion, and respect towards others. Being nice to each other is an essential part of Islamic teachings, and it is something that Muslims are encouraged to practice in their daily lives. In fact, the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) himself was known for his kind and gentle nature, and he urged his followers to be kind to others.
The Quran also teaches the importance of being kind and compassionate towards others. In Surah Al-Baqarah, verse 83, Allah says, “And [recall] when We took the covenant from the Children of Israel, [enjoining upon them], ‘Do not worship except Allah; and to parents do good and to relatives, orphans, and the needy. And speak to people good [words] and establish prayer and give zakah.’ Then you turned away, except a few of you, and you were refusing.”
This verse emphasizes the importance of doing good to others, including relatives, orphans, and the needy. It also highlights the importance of speaking to people kindly, which means that Muslims should use gentle and respectful language when communicating with others.
In addition to the Quran, there are numerous Hadiths (sayings and actions of the Prophet Muhammad) that stress the importance of being nice to each other. For example, the Prophet Muhammad said, “He who is not kind to people, Allah is not kind to him.” (Muslim)
Furthermore, the Prophet Muhammad taught that even the smallest acts of kindness can make a significant impact. He said, “Do not belittle any act of kindness, even meeting your brother with a cheerful face.” (Muslim)
Therefore, being nice to each other is an integral part of Islamic teachings, and it is something that Muslims should strive to practice in their daily lives. Muslims should treat others with kindness, compassion, and respect, regardless of their background or beliefs. By doing so, they can follow the example of the Prophet Muhammad and embody the true spirit of Islam
Makafat-E-Amal!
Aksar yeh khayal aata hai ke kya log apni aakhirat se khaufzada nahi hote? Kya log apni aakhirat ko yaad nhi karte? Kya log apni aakhirat ko sawarne ke liye apne amaal behtar krne ki koshish nhi krte?
Jab hum chote hote hai to hume duniya bohot rangeen aur pyari lagti hai. Hume us waqt logo ki samajh nhi hoti aur na hi parwah hoti hai. Chote bacho ko dekh kr aksar koi negative bhi nhi hota. Lekin wahi jab hum bade hote hai to cheeze thodi saaf hone lagti hai. What I feel is jab tak hum zindagi me thokar nahi khate hum bade nhi hote hai.
According to me insaan ko majburi bada banati hai. Jab aap kisi se umeed lagate ho aur woh puri nhi hoti usk badle aapko dhoka milta hai tab aap bade hote ho. Zindagi ne choti se umar me kaafi sikha diya hai. Kaash hum itne jaldi bade na hote aise soch aate hai. Kyu log nahi sochte ke saamne jo insaan hai uske seene me bhi dil hai? Agar woh pyar dena jaanta hai to woh pyaar paane ka bhi haqdaar hai. Kyu aksar aise logo ko for granted liya jata hai?
Log yeh kyu nahi sochte hai ke saamne wala insan bhi palat kar jawab de skta hai. Woh bhi tanziya lehza istemaal kar skta hai. Lekin woh rishte ko sabse upar rakhta hai isiliye khamosh hai. Kya aise logo ko apne kal ki fikar nhi hoti? Log kya sochte hai ke aap apni teekhi zubaan se logo k dil cheer do aur fir ek lafz maafi ya sorry ka keh do to zakhm bhar jayega. Mere mutabik maaf to sabko kardena chahiye lekin aitebaar dobara nhi karna chahiye. Jisne ek baar galat kiya hai woh baar baar kr skta.
Rishte koi do jumla keh dene se khatam nhi hote. Rishta baar baar ki thokar lagne se khatam hote hai. Rishta do pal me khatam hone wali cheez nahi hai. Aur jab khatam hojaye to takleef bhi usi insaan ko sabse zyada hoti hai jo mukhlis hota hai, jisne sabke saath acha rawaiya rakhne k baad bhi sabko kho diya ho. Kehte hai na ke apni keemat janna ho to sab se larh kar bhet jao aur dekho tumhe manane kon aata hai.
Insaan ko yeh baat yaad rakhni chahiye ke upar hamara Allah hai aur woh sab dekh rha hai. Woh sab ki sahi aur galat baate dekh rha hai. Kisi ke liye gaddha khodne wala usme khud ja girta hai. Apne amaal k baare me socho kyuki makafat e amal is true. Jo jesa boyega wesa katega bhi. Hamesha yaad rkho kisi ki behen beti par ungliya na uthao, kisi ki prwarish par ungliya mat uthao, kisi ki kamayi par sawal na karo aur kisi mazloom pr mat haso kyuki yeh sab aapk saamne bhi aa skta hai. Never ever try to degrade anyone. Never torture any innocent soul to such an extend that Allah has to interfere in that person’s matter.
You don’t even know what power an innocent soul holds. That person won’t complain to other person, or fight back to you but rather complain to Allah. I strictly believe the line from the Quran, Surah Al Imran حَسْبُنَا اللَّهُ وَ نِعْمَ الْوَ كِيلُ. “Sufficient for us is Allah, and [He is] the best Disposer of affairs.” And when Allah deals his affairs, you’ll be left with nothing. Nor in this world or even the world here after.
With this verse of Quran I would like to end my topic here. Kindly pour in your comments about what you feel. Do share your part of stories @ Mail :- amna_sarwar1993@yahoo.com Instagram :- amna_shafu
Jazakallah khair for investing your time and reading my post. May Allah grant you all with the best. Ameen!
Zindagi & Sabr !
What is life according to you? Kya khushal zindagi jeena sirf do waqt ki roti kamane ko kehte hai? Kya kuch paise define karte hai aapka status aur izzat?
Well according to me life ka dusra matlab hai SABR. Sabr ek bohot badi niyamat hai jise Khuda har kisi ko nahi nawazta. Sabr ke liye aapka tawakkul aapka imaan bohot mazboot hona chahiye. Sabr is that beautiful gift of Allah after which your life becomes peaceful.
Now why do I compare sabr to life? You live in such a world today where literally no one is truly yours. You have certain people in your lives to whom you need to prove yourself every single time. And mind you these people are your really close ones. There are times in your life when you need love, care and support from your close ones. You crave for their love and attention. But you what you get in return is hatred or taunts. That’s when what you need is SABR.
Our religion Islam also teaches us to be patience. Allah will answer your prayer. HE tests you in ways you have not imagined. HE tests you with health, wealth, parents, siblings, friends, children, spouses and much more. And the test is very hard on us. Just for a second imagine being tested with your health/wealth and everyone leaves your side. As soon as your health/wealth depletes people run away from you. What would you do in such situation? Will you lose your hope? Will you not have Sabr and have full tawaqqul on Allah – Ar Rahman Ar Rahim, who created you from mud and clay.
“Do the people think that they will be left to say, ‘We believe’ and they will not be tried?” (Al Ankabut, 2)
Allah will test you in many ways as HE stated in the Quran like family issues, health issue, professional life etc. And if you are a true believer you will definitely be patient, have Sabr and have complete faith in your Lord and surely this will make you pass the test without any difficulties. So whenever you are in hard times just close your eyes and think which side are you in? Kya aap shukar ada karne walo me se ho ya na shukri karne walo me se?
“And We will surely test you with something of fear and hunger and a loss of wealth and lives and fruits, but give good tidings to the patient…Who, when disaster strikes them, say, ‘Indeed we belong to Allah, and indeed to Him we will return.” (Al Baqarah, 155-156)
These Ayats from Surah Baqrah will make you understand the concept of Sabr completely. This will strengthen your imaan in your hard times. When Allah talk about suffering and hardships, HE also talk about rewards and fruits for the one who had Sabr.
Agar aapne apni zindagi me sabr krna seekh liya to aapne zindagi jeena seekh liya hai. You cannot be hopeless in your life as its a sin. You have to place your hope and tawaqqul in Allah The Almighty. One should never leave hope and should always have complete faith in Allah that HE will never let any wrong happen to you. In Islam, life is sacred and one of the greatest gifts and blessings of God. Every moment of life has great value and is irreversible. Therefore, it must be appreciated and protected; even if it has a poor quality. Always remember “The true servants of the gracious one are those who walk upon the earth and when they are addressed by the ignorant ones, their response is peace.”
I, in my life is a strict believer, who is never hopeless aur bohot sakht se sakht halaat me kabhi na umeed nahi hui hoon. Mera hamesha se strong belief raha hai ke jo bhi hoga behtar hi hoga kyuki jo bhi ho raha hai woh mere Allah ki raza se ho rha hai aur hum ALLAH ki raza me razi hai. Woh hamare saath kuch ghalat hone nahi denge. Yeh tawaqqul se zindagi behad asan hojati hai. Aap bade se bada imtehaan aasani se paar kar lete hai.
Never ever rely on your health or wealth. Both are unpredictable. Never boast about it. You never know you are being tested for the same and you are going to fail miserably just because you had been boastful about it and Allah doesn’t like the one is ungrateful. Allah tests you by giving and also by taking away your precious things.
Zindagi ek bohot khoobsurat safar hai jise sahi tareeke se jiya jaye to manzil Jannat hogi. Kabhi apne Khuda ko naraz na kare, na apne walidain ko rulaye, na apne other half ko takleef pahochaye aur apni aulado me sabko ek barabar samjhe. Aur jab aap par musibat aaye to aap namaz aur duaye kare. Qki duao me bohot taqat hai and Allah will answer your prayers in such a way that will blow away with the perfection of HIS plans and will leave you utterly speechless in ways.
Hope this piece of my writing helps someone in good way! Hope this makes change in someone’s life who is struggling! May Allah grant us all Sabr and help us to stay on the right path. Please keep us in your prayers. Jazakallah khair for the reading. Hope to meet you soon with another writing. Kindly drop in some lovely comments to show how this has affected you in your life.
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Yes! I am a Mother!
Mother, Mummy, Mom, Ma …
If you could answer, what would be your reply to the question who is mother? What is the hype all about mothers and motherhood? Well, I feel a mother is someone whose heart has been blessed with lots of love within it. God created mother in this way. And He Himself describes His love with the example of mother’s love.
I got to know this special relationship on the day when I became MOM for the first time. My situation was critical. I wasn’t even full term when he arrived in this world. I was just 33 weeks when I had an emergency cesarean section even though a-lot happened during my whole pregnancy, which I will surely let you know further. Now let’s begin.
You would have heard about mother’s instinct right. And well, yes, mother’s instincts are never wrong, even when the baby is still within her. It was 7th June 2018 (23rd Ramazan), Thursday. It was a weekend and as usual it was our trip to my in-law’s place for a day. So I packed everything and was ready. We were about to leave in 2 hours. I started to feel something weird. I can not describe that feeling well, but it wasn’t something good. My husband was about to leave for the office when I asked him to leave me at the doctor’s office. He too sensed that I was pretty sure something wasn’t right. I just wanted to be sure before leaving for my in-law’s place.
Before moving further, let me tell you that this was a high-risk pregnancy. I was hypertensive and my amniotic fluid was low at 22 weeks. I had 8 tablets for hypertension. I even got treatments for low amniotic fluid. Uterine artery resistance was also low due to which blood supply was insufficient, resulting in IUGR (Intra Uterine Growth Resistance). At 33 weeks, he was measuring 29 weeks. So yes, this visit was really important.
I reached the hospital at about 9 pm and waited for the doctor for at-least an hour. I didn’t know that I could go in without waiting as it was an emergency. I am glad I had the best gynecologist with me. She got my ultrasound done and informed me that it was an emergency as the baby was not receiving enough blood, which is really risky for the baby. At the moment, my blood pressure was 190/160. She transferred me to the top hospital with the best Neonatal ICU facility. Thanks to this wonderful lady, Dr Fouzia, who helped me at every step without being selfish. She gave out of box suggestions. She was like an angel sent from God just for me. She always tried to keep me calm and never presented the news in a way to panic us. She made up my mind to have a cesarean section as the baby’s weight was too low and he wouldn’t be able to bear the induction contractions. So we got our insurance things done as soon as possible and shifted to the new hospital.
It was 1 a.m. I was hooked up to CTG and my blood pressure was continuously monitored. The on-duty doctor there said that the baby is good and we can wait for a day, but they won’t discharge me because of high blood pressure. She said as it’s Friday, there won’t be any doctors unless it’s an emergency and also that they want to monitor me until Saturday. So I insisted my husband to leave and get something to eat for Suhoor. The doctor made him sign the consent form for cesarean section so that in case of an emergency, they wouldn’t have to wait for him.
It was around 4:30 a.m when he left. Just after 5 minutes, the ctg started getting abnormal and my blood pressure unstable. The baby’s heartbeat started dropping from 145 to 50-60 beats. It was really serious. The doctor came in and informed us about that and said to get prepared for an emergency cesarean section. I was hell scared. I could write essays about how that moment felt. It was like everything was falling apart. Will my baby be fine? Will he survive? Will he have any complications? This was all I was thinking. I called my husband and he started again to the hospital. The nurses were rushing in and out. I asked one of the nurses to wait until my husband come, but she said a minute couldn’t be wasted as it was really serious and the baby should be out as soon as possible. I had no one beside me at that time. How terrible could it be when it’s your first baby, your first cesarean-emergency cesarean actually! The nurses placed a catheter and transferred me to the OR (Operating Room). Before entering, the anesthesiologist asked some questions and informed me that I would be given double spinal anesthesia doses as my blood pressure was really high and a single dose could wear off easily. I entered the OR, craving a glance of my husband once before the cesarean I asked the nurse with tears in my eyes, could you please just ask my husband to stand in front of the door? And she was really nice about doing that. She went out and called my husband at the entrance and there it was. I couldn’t control my tears. We couldn’t talk, but I could feel and understand what he was trying to say. He would always say to me one thing, that God had given us this, He would always take care of the baby and us. So, remembering those words, the anesthesiologist starts his procedure. And Ouch!!! That hurts a lot. It was terrible for me. I was made to lie down and the procedure started. I was really nervous. I couldn’t stop talking to the anesthesiologist who was standing near me. I don’t know what all the shit I said to him. I was feeling every cut and movement and pressure over there. It was not like I was having pain, but you could feel everything. The doctor even said, just after he cut open, “Where is the water?” How was the baby still surviving? It’s all a miracle, right SubhanAllah. But yeah, within 5 minutes, I guess, at 5:28am, my Baby Moosa was born and the doctor said listen to your baby. He is crying and he is fine. I stressed myself to listen and yeah, that very small voice of a baby crying was a blessing and I can still feel that till now. But I wasn’t able to hold him or see him as he was really very tiny. He was only 1.3 kg (1300 grams) at birth. He was immediately shifted to NICU. The doctors stitched me up and shifted me to the recovery room. I was having chills and I guess that’s pretty common after delivery. The staff there were excellent. They took great care of me. Amidst all the hush hush going on, the hilarious thing about my husband was that he was still trying to figure out what had just happened. He was completely astonished to see the baby coming out of OR within 5–8 minutes of me being taken inside. He really couldn’t believe his eyes when he saw tiny baby Moosa being taken to the NICU. Ah! The Daddy thing!!
The husband was with the baby in the NICU and there doctors informed him about his health. Here I again want to thank my previous gynecologist, Dr. Fouzia, my angel doctor, who asked me to get lung maturity shots at 30-31 weeks, which helped baby Moosa a lot. Alhumdulilah Within 1-2 hours, his oxygen mask was removed as he could breathe on his own. But yes, his weight was very low and he needed to be in the NICU until he got to 1.8 kgs. So it was a long journey.
I was shifted to my room after almost 6 hours at around 12pm because my blood pressure dropped too low (70/40) right after the cesarean. Ohh! coming to the pain, it was horrible as the anesthesia wore off. I wasn’t able to move for almost 10 hours. The doctor came at 6 pm and I asked him about visiting my baby in the NICU as I hadn’t seen him yet. The doctor gave me strict advice to get up as soon as possible to be able to visit the baby. The more I move, the more I will be able to recover soon. The nurse came at 6:30pm and removed the catheter and asked me to get out of bed. She was a lovely lady. She helped me, but oh God, those first movements after the cesarean were awful. When I stood up, it felt like flesh cutting and falling apart. I felt like my body was ripping apart. But then I recalled what the doctor had said and yeah, I wanted to meet my baby as soon as possible, so I tried to bear the pain and walk. It was horrible the first day. The whole night, I kept calling the nurse to help me get out of bed. I had my pain medicine given through IV and also blood thinner injections so that I didn’t develop a blood clot..
The next day, my husband came in the morning. And I was ready to visit baby Moosa. I tried and was determined not to use a wheelchair. I was on the 8th floor and NICU was on the 6th. I went there walking on my own with the help of my husband. As we entered the NICU, there were lots and lots of babies in there. I was searching for my baby Moosa. The nurse led us to the baby. He was being given phototherapy in blue light. As I saw him, I was in complete shock. He was so very tiny. I was unable to believe what I was seeing. Anyways, I couldn’t actually be there for long because it was my second day of CS. They didn’t feed him for 2 days and he was on IV fluids because they wanted to just start with breastmilk, the liquid gold actually. On the 3rd day, I started expressing and gave it to the NICU nurse. Then the next day, as I had shown no sign of distress or any complications, the doctor discharged me. But my baby Moosa had to stay in the NICU. Coming back home with an empty hand was really awful. But Alhumdulilah he was in safe hands. I would literally cry the whole night thinking about the movements and kicks that weren’t there anymore. He stayed in NICU for 37 days. Those were the hardest days of my life. May Allah grant health and long life to my baby Moosa. Ameen.
If you would like to know about my baby’s NICU journey, do let me know as it was also in itself complicated. The hardest time in my life. Do comment if you like to know more..
In coming blogs I will be discussing the NICU journey, the importance of liquid gold, skin to skin and, most importantly, postpartum depression. Till then take care. Hope you like my birth story
Thank you all.
AMNA SHAFIQ
Proud Wife and Mother of 2.
SubhanAllah ❤️
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Having a baby is a blessed and lovely experience. Having a baby comes with lots of fun and difficulties.
FOODIES
Who doesn’t love yummy food? I don’t think there’s anyone who doesn’t.
Hello everyone! Here I am Mrs. Amna Shafiq, a homemaker and blessed mother of a 9 month old Baby Moosa. I cook variety of dishes and have a YouTube channel which is related to cooking. I am starting as a blogger now so as to share with you all some lovely recipes and even some interesting talks.
Help me increase my virtual family. Do share and try my recipes. Do surely reply back with images and suggestions from your side at shafiq_mfah@yahoo.com.
NO ONE IS BORN A GREAT COOK, ONE LEARNS BY DOING SO.
I have been trying some good recipes since sometime and impressing my family. Firstly it was my parents and now my husband. I tell you guys impressing husband is much more difficult. 😉
Perfect food is a myth. Food is perfect according to your taste and preferences. Some likes hot & spicy, some like plain, some sour and sweet. Depends upon the taste you hold. Just remember perfect blend of ingredients mixed with your pure love will definitely create magic. ❤
Today I am writing this to share a lovely recipe with you all. My husband really liked it and gave some lovely compliments. ❤
Let’s get started with the recipe.
CHICKEN TIKKA
Ingredients for Chicken Tikka
- Boneless Chicken 1 kgs
- Tomatoes roughly chopped 4
- Green chillies 4-5 chopped
- Tikka masala 2 tbsp
- Coriander powder 1 tbsp
- Cumin powder ½ tbsp
- Yogurt 2 tbsp
- Ginger and Garlic paste 2 tbsp
- Salt as per taste
- Oil as required
METHOD:-
Marinate chicken with tikka masala, coriander powder, cumin, yogurt, ginger garlic paste and salt for 30 minutes.
Heat a large pan and add oil. Add the chicken pieces.
Add tomatoes and green chillies.
Saute and cover until it’s tender from medium to low flame.
To enhance the flavour you can give coal smoke but my husband doesn’t like that I skipped that step. The chicken was ready within 40 minutes.
Ingredients for Saffron Rice
- Soaked Basmati rice ½ kg
- Water 4 cups
- Bay leaves 2
- Star anise 2
- Green cardamom 3-4
- Cumin seeds 2 tsp
- Fennel seeds 1 tsp
- Few Saffron strands
- Salt as per taste
METHOD:-
In a large pan, add water, rice, bay leaves, star anise, green cardamom, cumin, fennel, saffron and salt.
Let it come to boil and let the rice be cooked completely. Once cooked, drain the excessive water and put the rice on dumm for about 10 mins.
CHICKEN TIKKA with SAFFRON RICE is ready to serve.
Better tastes with caramelized onions and tomatoes chutney.
My husband prefers yogurt raita which includes chat masala and cumin powder.
I hope you will surely appreciate my effort and try out this recipe.
Please share this recipe with family and friends.
Hadith of the Day…
Narrated Abu Umamah: A man said, “Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) what rights can parents demand from their children?” He replied, “They are your Paradise and your Hell.”
Ibn Majah transmitted it.
Al-Tirmidhi – Hadith 1277
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